An Ode to My Son…

  1. Yvonne Cruz says:

    I cried, I laughed , and felt for you. You got an unexpected gift and though you struggled, you embraced it. Happy birthday not only to Jake, but also to you .

  2. Denise says:

    You are So right!! God has a plan for us all!! My story is long as yours is and very complicated to tell some that know say a “real” soap opera!! Married 42yrs with one child of mine our daughter now 38 and a beautiful granddaughter 16!!
    Life never gets much easier but I am Very Blessed having Survived Ovarian Cancer 7 yrs now!! Gods Plans we never know!!!
    HAPPY 13th Birthday to your Son!! Many Many Blessings still to come your way??♥️♥️ Children & Awesome Hubbys are a Gift ?
    God Bless You in all you endured♥️? And the Happiness you have yet to Come❣️❣️❣️❣️

  3. I can so relate to this. I told myself I didn’t want children also, but I think part of that came from my OB-GYN telling me I would never have kids when I was 18 years old. I was 27 when I shockingly discovered I was pregnant. My relationship with my son’s father wasn’t great, but the news came at a time in my life where I was desperately searching for a purpose, a reason for being on this planet. In short, my son saved my life.
    God gave me what I needed at the time I most needed it. ?
    My son is 26 now and my greatest accomplishment, my greatest joy.
    Happy Birthday to Jake and thanks for sharing your story. ?
    Wendy

  4. Lisa Kessler says:

    Happy Birthday to your beautiful boy!!! Being a Mom is the hardest job in the entire world, but it also makes life precious and so worth living….

    And you’re rocking it…. ?

    *HUGS*

    Lisa

  5. Karen Boswell says:

    This true life story is so Special. Thank you for making my day so very special.

  6. RL Jackson says:

    Happy birthday to your beautiful son!

  7. eawells says:

    I know that feeling – feeling like they will grow older to be independent, out of diapers, and our constant supervision. As my four grew older we celebrated the little things: the first time we took a family vacation flying somewhere without taking a stroller; the last time we used a car seat ot booster seat; the last child in elementary school; then middle school, high school and then college. We haven’t celebrated an empty house or grandkids yet but have celebrated the weddings of our two daughters. I look back and miss those simpler times with less worry but at the same time recognize the beautiful and wonderful children I helped raise.

    You have raised a wonderful son, been a supportive and loving role model for him, and now continue to enjoy his teenage years before he’s off to college, jobs, marriage, etc. Remember all the good you have done.

    Happy 13th Birthday to your son.

  8. Erica says:

    How beautifully written this is ! Thank you for sharing! Happy birthday to your son! I just had a fight with my teen today.. Feeling sad that we got to that point. Your story made me realize… We are all human, there is no script with parenting. We are all just doing the best we can. Love you Erica <3

    • Jennifer says:

      Thanks Erica – your son is so amazing and God YES there is no script for any of it – just us doing the best we can because we love them. Cyber hugs.

  9. Debbie says:

    I also believed I would never have kids. My husband, now ex-husband, said we would wait 5 years after our wedding, to have kids. 5 years came and he said it’s time. I lost that battle, but now I have a son who is 31, and looks like me (light skin and blonde hair) with his father being 100% Italian and dark. My son is the joy of my life, even with the few large bumps in the road he and I have gone thru. It just gets better and better.

    Debbie

  10. Jaycee says:

    I told my son, “You are the boy who made me Mom.” It happened when our eyes met for the first time in the delivery room. I remember sobbing, “Are you Aaron? Are you Aaron” over and over again. In that moment, I was reborn into someone with incredible strength and courage. Someone who wouldn’t hesitate to give her life for her child. I have two boys now just like you and all I could say is you are so right. Motherhood is terrifying and beautiful and so so hard sometimes. Thank you for this amazing article.

  11. Georganne says:

    What a beautiful gift to your son that he can treasure forever. Happy birthday to your boy and thank you for sharing such an amazing reflection with us!

  12. JULIE says:

    Brilliant!
    I was kinda the opposite. I wanted kids, but had trouble conceiving, and then staying pregnant. Both my kids, now 17 and 12, were and are miracles. I wouldn’t trade a minute of it.

  13. Nancy says:

    Can’t believe he’s a teenager where did ‘baby’ Jake go? Hope he has the best birthday ever!!! Happy Birthday Jake???

    • Jennifer says:

      BAby Jake! Without you who knows what would’ve happened – you watched him for a whole important year of his life. So special!

  14. They turn your life upside down, don’t they?

    Happy Birthday, Jake! He shares a birthday with my son Paul who turns 26 today.

  15. Theresa says:

    Aww so sweet I can’t believe he is 13 I remember when you were pregnant walking around the office god bless him and happy birthday!!0

  16. Helen says:

    I remember when you were so sure you never wanted children, so happy you got to have it all. Happy Birthday ? Jake

  17. Tina says:

    I always loved children, but had no intentions of having my own. I met my husband when I was 29, with the honest statement that I didn’t know if I wanted kids. 2 years after getting married, we decided to have a baby. It took me 15 months to get pregnant. I finally got pregnant 3 months after my dad died. My son was such a hard baby, and I wouldn’t change it for the world. 3 years after him, I had my daughter at 38. I’m an “old mom”. And things all worked out as they were meant to be! I feel ya, Jennifer!

  18. KL Grayson says:

    Oh girl… you spoke to my heart. I try so hard to enjoy ever minute with my kids because they’re growing up so fast and I know that one of these days it’s all going to be over. Did I teach them enough? Loved them enough? Discipline them enough? My oldest is getting ready to turn nine… like you I suffered postpartum depression after his birth to point that I failed to connect to him emotionally in the first three months of his life. I regret that even though it wasn’t intentional and I’ve spend that last nine years hoping I’ve built that connection. I could go on and on, but I really just wanted to say thank you for your words and for reminding all of us mothers that we are not alone!

  19. Terri Chlapek says:

    We have a lot in common. I was NOT going to have kids. Then there was NO way God would give me a boy. I called him “she” for 2 weeks after he was born. I ended up with 3 boys. God is still laughing and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

  20. Sharlene Wegner says:

    OK, now you have me crying at work. Thank you so much for sharing! I was 33 when I got married & 35 when I had my first child – a boy. He is now 25 & moved out of state 3 years ago. Now my girl, 18, is away at college. It is truly amazing how fast time flies. Empty nest is a real thing. Enjoy your time with your boys!

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